Pleasers, enablers, hoarders, sacrifices and handlers ALWAYS have agendas of NOT ALLOWING and NOT being responsible for the self. Their agenda is to get another to get them what they want. Something they need to give the self!
Compassion / unconditional love for the self
Financial and emotional support for the self
The enabler, handler, hoarder and / or pleaser gather their value and worth by crippling, manipulating and deceiving the other person(s). There is an agreement or contract by two or more parties. One side wants to be irresponsible and self absorbed, living in their “pain body.” The other side is the “long suffer” or “saint” that tolerates abuse, keeps it a secret from the outside world and enables the feedback loop to keep turning. Enabler’s OWN blame and fix problems they do not have. They use and control others to avoid being responsible for the self. Pleasers, enablers, hoarders and handlers play all three roles of victim predator and “innocent” in denial in an effort to avoid dealing with THEIR moral dilemmas consciously.
Handlers, trainers, pleasers and enablers can be INTERNAL (the voice in your head) or external, like another human, an addiction, a committee, belief, doctrine or demon. The dissociated or unconscious are easiest to handle. They generally do as they are told without any thought. Blind faith loyalties and behaviors to country, leaders, religion, their tribe, family, a parent or friend.
The Illuminists put alternate personalities in their “mind controlled slave system” to act as internal handlers, there will always be a combination of dark and light handlers for balance. For example one man had two dark internal handlers that happened to be the cults concept of his father and grandfather that taught and enforced “family loyalty” FIRST, loyalty to the cult family. The same man had an internal handler hiding out waiting to help and assist him if he wanted to break out. Along with the three internal handlers the man had seven human handlers and trainers to control him in his dissociated state while serving his master. Human handlers in the mind-controlled slave will frequently change, depending on what the illegal or criminal work to be done.
Our various religions were created by the Illuminati to HANDLE the masses by spreading disinformation; to teach that any voice in your head or communication you have by going within is dangerous.
The cosmic truth is; when you commune with your soul conglomerate or higher self they can help guide you out of dissociative reactions, habits and programs. They can help you integrate personalities, give you a “heads up” or explain the program you are looping in and how it works. That way you control and decide FOR YOU what you want to do.
PLEASING is FORCE, covert but still manipulation, deception and forcing your agenda. Pleasing is used to handle and manipulate others to acknowledge or approve of you or get them to give you what you want. Fighting the dark by being and acting dark, you become dark and loose your soul connection to compassion and peace.
Taking responsibility to please YOU, yourself means you can allow others to please themself, instead of following your agenda. You can be compassionate enough to ALLOW others, even a significant other, to do, as they want to do. Sacrifice or needing to please ANYONE, a Supreme Being, super hero, your parent or child makes you the victim and predator. Victims and predators exert a lot of energy and create great dramas about things being done the WRONG way or never done well enough.
When any type of FEAR or force rules the energy field around YOU as an infant, you adopt the belief that you need to work “hard” to please to continue to exist. Working hard means frustration, disappointment and doing what you don’t want to do. Having a fearful state of consciousness creates the perception that you are always a “victim” unable to find safety, acceptance and love in a hostile world of OTHER victims and victimizers. This is a beta brainwave state of consciousness.
When you decide to stop criticizing, manipulating and trying to alter others to please you, YOU can start allowing you to be compassionate with you.
HOARDERS of any variety, consider themselves victims because they refuse to accept WHAT IS true. They “passive aggressively” DEMAND and are waiting for reality to conform to their wishes and wants. Until they get what they demand, all around them experience their tantrum and extreme denial. The hoarder has turned their perceived victimization, into their RIGHT to be the predator that judges and punishes. Their denial of the truth victimizes all that engage with them. They suck the life out of what they hoard.
Clutter and hoarding in your emotional body would be festering wounds, pain and suffering the hoarder clings to, feeds from and keeps dragging the past wound into present time to live in, to experience over and over again. They are self absorbed unable and unwilling to notice the suffering they inflict on everyone else. These dark thought patterns of unresolved issues become crystallized capsules of energy until the thoughts are transmuted into compassion and flow back into the quantum field.
Spiritual and emotional wealth is gathering and wise use of YOUR resources in a balanced way. Not what you take from others and squander. In higher dimensions you are not recognized by your physicality, which is only a container, YOU are a field of flowing energy.