You cannot change the facts of the past, BUT you can change what you tell yourself about your experiences or trauma.
You can continuously relive your victimization, pain and suffering.
You can deny and continue playing the innocent victim.
You can own your part, in creating unpleasant or even traumatic experiences. You can own nasty things you have done in this or other lifetimes or realities that lowered your resonance and attracted a victimizer or predator to you, energetically. Attracting a predator does mean someone NEEDS to be victimized in that low resonating feedback loop. Taking turns being the victim or predator or confused innocent is a fun game. The most common way to play is changing roles all the time.
Changing your perceptions changes, your feedback loop and resonance.
Stick to the facts about what has happened. Add facts as you notice and become aware of new ones. Keep re-experiencing what you want to resolve. Each re-experience generally increases the amount of information you gather. ASK your soul conglomerate any questions you may have that will increase your awareness of your experiences.
Then explore the chain of events. What caused “a thing to happen”? Then keep expanding on that. Then you can explore the thoughts of each individual involved in this chain of events of cause and effect. Please avoid getting dramatic, or blaming or judging anyone. You are only gathering information, knowledge and awareness. Remain the objective observer, the detective on the case.
For example, your parent BLAMES you, the child, for all that the parent dislikes about himself or herself. Know this is an adult that does not take responsibility for what they do. Unprotected sex CAN and does lead to pregnancy. Blaming a child because it exists “is not rational.” Owning a parents issues or problems is not rational either.
BUT what is TRUE is the law of quanta attraction. The child and parent’s state of consciousness will have like resonances at the time of birth. Both will have had many incarnations together working on roughly the same issues together. Before birth they will have made contracts with each other. Contracts to support each other to increase the compassion they carry. Seldom is that achieved. Which is why they keep incarnating together. Humans are slow learners and even slower doers.
When either party is operating with dark thought patterns, they take advantage of others or blame each other or punish each other. Like resonances, entrain together creating a feedback loop that continuously recreates the same thoughts, behaviors and reactions and compassion is very hard to find in these transactions.
When you can step back from your dark, negative, angry thought patterns and become responsible for yourself and what you think. Come at yourself and others compassionately. You can move into a higher state of consciousness and be the objective observer. Own your part of the feedback loop of negativity, anger and insensitivity. Instead of living in your wounds or pain body your perceptions will change when you own your creations. Owning your thoughts means you have power and choice over what you think and experience. You can choose to entrain with the feedback loop of compassion.