is ALLOWING as much time and emoting as is needed, to process one’s thoughts and feelings. Without judgment, shaming, blaming or a lecture on what someone else experienced. The goal is supporting another or the self, while they or you process.
No shaming them or you.
No overwhelming them or you with more information.
No fixing their problem for them or you distracting you.
Personal growth is that, personal choice to increase compassion. Feedback is fine when sincerely asked for, and given compassionately. Holding a space is being supportive or increasing someone’s awareness WHEN THEY ASK for it or seek it out and can handle the information. To be supportive you need to realistically discern their state of consciousness and what skills they and you actually have. When their focus is on their WOUND, blaming, judgment or an act of vengeance or gossip, they are not ready to grow personally! They choose to remain in dark thought patterns. You would be wise to allow that.
Holding connotes care, support and preservation. NOT grasping, forcing, holding too tight or fixing it. It is to ALLOW its current form while it processes what it has experienced. A space is a place of potential, where things can happen and expand. To hold space is to create and maintain a place where things can exist, expand and grow. Allowing whatever comes, to happen. To hold space you need to step aside and let others make their own choices of what they want to experience.
Only holding a space means you allow others the reality and consequences of their choices without your interference. In higher consciousness we are all sovereign beings, which means we stay conscious, think and decide for the self. We allow others their reality as long as they AVOID VIOLATING the rights of others or destroying any part of the collective environment.