is FORCE, covert but still manipulation, deception and forcing your agenda. Pleasing is used to handle and manipulate others to acknowledge or approve of you or get them to give you what you want. Fighting the dark by being and acting dark, you become dark and loose your soul connection to compassion and peace.
Taking responsibility to please YOU, yourself means you can allow others to please themself, instead of following your agenda. You can be compassionate enough to ALLOW others, even a significant other, to do, as they want to do. Sacrifice or needing to please ANYONE, a Supreme Being, super hero, your parent or child makes you the victim and predator. Victims and predators exert a lot of energy and create great dramas about things being done the WRONG way or never done well enough.
When your thoughts and actions are driven by FEAR and FORCE, you have adopted the belief that you need to work “hard” to please and earn acceptance from external sources, sources outside the self. That means facing many frustrations, disappointments and doing what you don’t want to do. Having a fearful state of consciousness creates the perception that you are always a “victim” unable to find safety, acceptance and love in a hostile world of OTHER victims and victimizers. When you stop questioning, criticizing and altering the way others do things or wear things or say and think you can start allowing.
In physicality, as an infant, your sense of self is connected to the one who feeds and cares for the container your soul essence is in or around. Your soul essence has existed forever it just needs to learn how to control its biology. When any type of FEAR or force rules the energy field around the infant, it adopts the belief that it needs to work “hard” to please and earn acceptance from the external sources that care for it.