Your INTENT makes it vampirism or a gift. Self-sacrifice is being the covert or overt predator. Self-sacrifice always comes with an agenda of energy feeding, force or manipulation. The one that “sacrifices” operates with the belief that ANOTHER needs to give them what they want or need. The truth is they need to give it to the self.
Service to others BEFORE you have healed your wounds, needs, addictions or compulsions will be SELF-SACRIFICE for both of you and NOT a gift to either of you. There will be strings, agendas, selfish intent and energy feeding attached. There is always an agenda of quid pro quo. Self-sacrifice is a set-up to take something from someone else.
“I am gone all the time to earn money for you.”
The “wage earner” that is never available to the spouse or child is not being truthful or of service to anyone. Those with addictions are not available to anyone AND they need to be taken care of. The needy one that sacrifices for the other sucks the life force out of them and limits them. The main thought consciously or unconsciously is about, “What’s in it for ME.” For example:
“I wanted a baby to satisfy MY need for someone to worship me, and I can have someone to control that is too defenseless to leave me. This also gives me someone to punish the way I got punished and abused.”
“The child (or significant other) needs to heal my wounds and make me feel better about me.”
When you live in your WOUNDS or “needs” that you won’t satisfy for yourself or you haven’t changed your perceptions about YET! Your belief and agenda is that SOMEONE else OWES you! You will give with one hand and take with the other hand. In the low state of consciousness of self-sacrifice, your focus and perceptions are on whom to blame, judge and the punishment they should get. You, the wounded, feel entitled to decide all of that with your VERY limited knowledge, neediness and righteous indignation.
The intent of a gift!
Service to others ALLOWS others the path of their choice WITHOUT your interference, your neediness or demands on them. You are responsible for yourself and to satisfy your own needs. You assist another when asked, you do it in a manner that they can gain some benefit from. Your DETACHED compassion needs to be in sync with your LIGHT soul conglomerate’s perceptions. Service to others is a life style found in the light bandwidth, in higher brainwave states when the soul essence is aligned with its soul conglomerate and giving and receiving only compassion.
You offer what you have at their level and pace. How or if your gift is accepted or used is not an issue for the giver.
Quantum law of ALLOWING grants individuals the right to have their own reality and resonance. To BE and DO whatever they choose and own the resonance of their choice. VIOLATING the RIGHTS and CHOICES of OTHERS or DESTROYING any part of the collective environment, drops you out of compassion and into a lower, slower gray resonance.
Allowing means you STOP trying to get others to adopt your reality, beliefs, and carrying your pain and suffering. Allowing means you stop playing victim, predator and confused innocent games.