"Dark energy" is energy that lacks compassion. Would you ever need to help a person carry their light energy? I think NOT. So, if you are carrying energy for someone. If you are suffering for another, or holding the pain of their wounds, you are CARRYING their DARK energy for them. The dark has trained us to carry their dark energy by telling us we are GOOD religious, pious people when we suffer for others. That way, the dark one's have trained us to pick up their slack and dark creations as we "try to WORK our way to heaven." Our deities or organized religion say suffering is rewarded in heaven and that is disinformation or just lies.
Actual physical death feels a bit like slipping into a pool of warm water. Your awareness does not go anywhere but your essence has detached from the biology, like stepping out of a vehicle. Your essence and individuality continue on. Reality expands and you feel light. You experience YOUR thoughts and beliefs because they are ALL still with you. Staying calm reduces confusion, we have "crossed over" thousands of times before. When we transition, leave the biology or physically die, we lose three ounces. 3 ounces of information carried on the quantum level or our individual electromagnetic codes or our essence or DNA codes depart and disperse.
You alone discern what is TRUE for you. We each have our own unique realities and within your reality you also have truths you live by in that reality. For example, in some people's realities there is a list of unacceptable thoughts or subjects that are NOT to be talked about. You are not allowed to speak to that person of their uncontrolled spending, excessive sugar eating or their irrational logic. But they always have time and energy for "let's pretend." This type of individual is hard to talk to because any of the topics that might touch on a truth they are in denial about "WOUNDS them" and ends the conversation and even the relationship frequently. You were warned, you knew the rules and failed to follow them.