Quash, means ended or suppressed.
In the beta brainwave state of consciousness and survival, what passes for “love” is always conditional, quid pro quo, transactional or “tit for tat” an equivalent given in return.
Parents living in the lower state of beta consciousness reproduce so they can get something out of the child they “sacrificed” to produce. That is why so many children are forced into the role of surrogate spouse, EMOTIONALLY, socially and / or physically to one or both parents and possibly the extended family. It is difficult for the child to sustain its existence without sacrificing its freedom to fulfill the needs of their adult caretakers. Being born into a royal family or dynasty is a mind numbing series of duties including the entire set of personal ones. Consider Oliver Twist, living in poverty, which is no picnic either. He had to work for his existence and please the adults.
The “average” adult(s) raising a child in the beta brainwave state of consciousness is NEEDY, lonely and wants someone else to GIVE their life meaning. Someone else needs to satisfy the adults personal wants and addictions. The physically dependent child is perfect for this job of conditional love, quid pro quo, transactional or “tit for tat.” All you need do is blame the child; especially for things they will never be capable of doing. Then make them feel guilty for not satisfying you like you NEED or want them to do. It is easy to withhold anything the child may want or need UNTIL you get what you want first.
The “adult child” of NEEDY or dysfunctional parent(s) is controlled and manipulated the rest of their life by guilt when they allow that. Guilt is in operation in all areas of their existence. Socially, in the community they live in, at work and their religious practices. If the adult child of NEEDY or dysfunctional parent(s) reproduces, I wonder what type of parent they will be?
WHEN GUILT governs the WAY YOU FEEL, you are the only one with the power to change that. The only one that can release the guilt you ADOPTED in childhood and haven’t released yet.
KNOW! You can’t MAKE anyone anything.
Yes, you can torment the smaller and weaker one’s bodies but you can’t force them to feel guilt. They need to be willing to own the blame and guilt you offer them, but they can chose to own it, or NOT.
Making other’s happy is NOT and has NOT ever been your job, and it can’t really be done. Review all the sacrificing you have done. Did it change the one you sacrificed yourself for?
I think not!
Whatever you offered them was never enough and it wasn’t offered in the right way or often enough.
Decide, to be responsible for satisfying ALL your needs and wants.
Retaining any of your GUILT means you WILL and HAVE given pieces of you away to those that you love, hate, and feel guilty about. Guilt destroys, sucks or siphons the life force out of you, decreasing your self-image, self-esteem, passion and life force. Guilt and the resulting self-punishment create the feeling that you are wrong and worthless.
Who benefits from that?
Cut energy feeding cords as often as needed from those with or without biology, WANTING to siphon your energy. Manipulate the guilt you chose to own and be controlled by. Explain to them you are not playing the “guilt game” any longer. You can even give their guilt and blame back to them. Mentally talk to your predator in your head or out in front of you. Explain to them all the pain and suffering you experienced. Tell them you are sorry for all the pain and suffering you inflicted on them in retaliation for how trapped and wounded you felt. Go into as much detail as you need to, so the emotional charge on your interactions with them, gets released for you. Own the experiences you had, BUT release the drama, guilt and blame so you can move into the higher state of consciousness, where you, the objective observer reside.
The TEN COMMANDMENTS are Universal Law or Truths simplified as “rules” to point out what is a dark or light choice, incase you pretend that you don’t know. Those that think love, affection and compassion MUST come from an external source are misdirected and they will always “COVET” or yearn to possess and will not allow other’s their freedom. Those that worship external “AUTHORITY” in anyway, shape or form, give away their energy, power, thinking, freedom and frequently their biology and health.
You are NOT anyone’s keeper or responsible for anyone’s choices or satisfying their neediness. You do not exist to serve or worship anyone or anything. There is no way to do for another, what they need to do for the self. Praying for peace is GIFTING, “I mean forcing,” your agenda on those that may not want peace. Can you stop gifting people with things and feelings YOU want to give and they may not want and haven’t asked for?
Your JEALOUSY or ENVY is you thinking someone or something else got what YOU think you should be getting from some external source. So you start whining, pouting, plotting and complaining to guilt or force the other to give it to you. When you do manage to get what you THINK you need or want. It is never enough, or long lasting enough or exactly how you like it.
YOU need to please you, that is your job!
The cosmic principle of HAPPINESS says that the way you feel about WHO you are, what you do, and what you have manifested, creates your happiness for you. Not your title or the role you play, what you own or whom you control with guilt and blame or what human law you follow.
Your point of perception, and drama creates your emotion of sadness or joy. It is imperative for you to own what you HAVE created, even when you created with some very dark demanding thoughts and you did it in ignorance. Reality “IS THE WAY IT IS” you need to own it before you have the power to change it, if that is what would please you.