Calm, moments of stillness allow for serious reflection to go within the SELF. Listening to and sensing what you are thinking about, just before waking up and falling asleep or getting what you always wanted to experience. In the stillness, your thoughts easily move into a higher brainwave state for you to become the objective observer and KNOW, your point of perception. The objective observer knows and sees the larger picture of cause and effect and how one action or thought flowed into another action or thought. This awareness comes WITHOUT judging or blaming or assigning punishment. This awareness is understanding and knowing the ENTIRE chain or sequence or cycle of cause and effect.
“I hit you because you hit me first.”
“You hurt my feelings so I get to be mean to you.”
This is how beta brainwave consciousness functions, that has NO objective observer or compassion present. Questions aren’t asked and extenuating circumstances or other factors are not considered. Cause and effect is not considered. No thinking is happening, there is only a “knee jerk reaction.”
Higher brainwave states consider a much wider variety of factors before responding, interacting or drawing conclusions.
Groups of people also experience moments of stillness and calm reflection before sunrise and sunset and or while singing together. They pause their activity to reflect at least momentarily on where they have been and refocus to what is true now in present time. There is an outer world reset and an inner nudge, to consider what is going on inside you and do you like it. In calm clarity, it is easier to decide what comes next, what might need changing or enhancing. Enjoyment of what is and what you had a hand in creating is reflected on.
WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT YOU
Your SELF-ESTEEM is based on YOUR perception of you.
What you think and feel about the personal experiences you created for you. Your beliefs, actions and relationships are shaped, sustained or dissolved based on what you choose to give your attention too. Every option is available and you pick what you want to focus and dwell on.
Self-worth is not gathered from EXTERNAL SOURCES, like other people, events or accomplishments. Knowing or being friends with the most famous, sexy or crazy one doesn’t change what you think about you.
When you tell yourself, lies, pretty stories or focus on mean spirited thoughts you are in a beta brainwave state of consciousness and the dark bandwidth. When you share lies, pretty stories and nasty gossip back and forth, you create hollow, empty, isolating FAKE meaningless intimacy. Dark One’s focus on others, only lasts long enough to siphon their energy and possibly take something from them to temporarily make them feel better. Like all distractions and addictions, there is only a few intense moments of distraction until they need another fake fix.
When trauma has been your childhood experience, the most common reaction is to hate and blame you, to be angry and frustrated about your inability to protect your body, your state of calm and trust others. You have disgust for your needs, feelings and your body that set you up to be easily abused!
PAIN is resistance to change or your body’s reaction to increased quanta spin. Pain is a gift, to give you time to reflect on and transmute your thoughts that are NOT compassionate. Those living in pain and suffering are in past time re-experiencing perceived OLD wounds, injuries and injustices.
Self-cutting and eating disorders are common reactions to sexual abuse and trauma, its repetitive, nonlethal cutting of the body. More females than males cut on themselves. Males get into more vehicle accidents than females do. Self-abuse is used to FEEL again and experience control over their body.
Because of their traumas, they turn their FEELING and senses off; it’s too dangerous to feel, unless they have total control of the experience. The dysfunctional eater or cutter controls the when and how they get hurt and eat. Cutters feel calmer and relaxed after the distraction of cutting the self because THEY are in control of the abuse. In childhood they felt calmer after being abused because that abuse was over temporarily.
Cutting and dysfunctional eating also acts to transform EMOTIONAL pain into something visible when you have no words to express your suffering. Self-cutting is physical pain that can be seen, accepted and treated easier by the larger community in denial about the way children are treated.
SCHIZOPHRENIA, Dissociated Identity Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder is a result of the child’s inability to sort out the traumas and nuttiness they exist in. They never feel safe or that there is anyone they can trust. These events and the child’s reactions to them may cause chemical imbalances that need addressing.
AUTISTIC individual’s perceptions are focused on their inner thoughts, daydreams, fantasies and private logic. Autistic people are not emotionally attached to other humans like most of us are. They are great examples of following the law of ALLOWING. They have no desire to FIX you, enable you, judge or blame you and no interest in all the “social customs” humans have created to control each other’s behavior.
The autistic individual has difficulty communicating verbally, interacting socially and picking up social cues. They focus on one stimulus at a time, as multiple stimuli are too difficult or distracting for them to process comfortably. Listening and making eye contact at the same time is a challenge and can be almost overwhelming. Generally humans function in a lot of chaos. Language is a clumsy form of communication and limiting, the autistic uses telepathy or pictures to convey concepts, just as animals do. They also telepathically pick up other people’s thoughts like dishonesty, secrets and fears. The autistic and our pets see and communicate with other dimensions we generally deny exist. They have a wider range of vision than most of us have and are able to see gray shapes from the 4th dimension, which they find distracting or upsetting. The gray shapes from the lower fourth are not so friendly.
The RESTRICTED and REPETITIVE behaviors the autistic have is to comfort the self and keep them balanced, while they exist in the chaos that is the third dimension and physicality.
Asperser’s disorder is a higher functioning form of autism characterized by strong math skills and extreme personal withdrawal. Dr. Temple Grandin has Asperser’s. She created and developed the squeeze chute to calm down agitated cattle. Squeeze chute is a large metal apparatus that acts like a large clamp calming the cattle. Frequently human touch is painful to the autistic. Partially from immature nerve endings and partially from the emotional body they feel in the other person. They do not understand or TRUST others.
From childhood on Grandin had increasing rages, anxiety and total panic attacks so she decided to build a squeeze chute for herself. She used applied controlled pressure to her body that she could control and discovered it did relieve anxiety in her. A squeeze chute is used in some schools for the autistic child to relieve their anxiety.
Regardless of the issues you have experienced the only way to change or alter them is to own them with as much objectivity as possible. Without BLAME, especially do not blame the self, without JUDGMENT, “it is what it is” and without PUNISHMENT, compassion allows. When you are able to observe your experiences without emotion or drama from a higher brainwave state of consciousness, you are able to understand cause and effect better. Then you are able to treat your experiences as a tool for WISDOM gathering. Know it is time to move on to new experiences.
When you stop existing in your WOUNDS and feeding from DRAMA, your self-esteem and compassion dramatically improves. That is moving into greater light and knowing that you create your reality and self-esteem. Your soul conglomerate is always there to inform, support and comfort you, just ask. I did not say tell or demand. Give and receive only compassion.
WHY DO YOU TALK?
When you open your mouth to talk, what is the purpose?
To let someone know they are doing it WRONG, again?
To complain about how you’re suffering and unhappy?
Are you “setting them up” by asking a question you want a specific answer to and they have to guess what the answer needs to be to please you? When you get the answer you want, do you torment them further about how wounded, sad and unfair the world, and they are to you? Then there is your body language of grunts and groans for everyone to be showered in. Some of us are also reading your thoughts of blame and judgment.
And you wonder why they tune you out and try to avoid you.
What a mystery. And it proves they don’t love you also.
Consider the COSMIC truth of attraction. Are you giving what you get and getting what you give? Are your THOUGHTS, in your head, being mirrored back to you in the reality you surround yourself with? Are you EXPECTING another to MAKE you joyful? When they fail in that endeavor, do you pout and complain about something that has no relevance to the situation. Imagine not wanting to be around someone like that.
Is it possible for another to make you joyful?
I think not.
If you want to feel victimized – no one can take that from you.
They could try to share their enthusiasm with you and you could quash it. You could reject any pleasantness and rant on about your depression and unhappiness. Who wouldn’t enjoy being around that field of energy? When you continue bathing in negativity, you create your own isolation and people avoiding you. When you lie, are cruel, rude and only concerned with self-aggrandizement like some leaders are, your world gets darker and scarier and lonelier.
CONSIDER the FOLLOWING
Opening up a dialogue with another instead of venting and judging, might help you attract something for you that is more enjoyable, higher vibrating and holds some light. The two of you can explore all the “nooks and crannies” of your thoughts. Every small, out-of-the-way thought you hold. You can share personal experiences and bits of wisdom you have gathered in your vast wanderings.
RECIPROCAL means given, felt, or done in return. Binding two parties equally to an agreement or obligation, mutual action or relationship. CAUSE and EFFECT is another way to express the law of attraction, “you get what you give.”
You can let someone know what they are doing WRONG, and they’ll let you know what you do wrong. You can complain about how you’re suffering and unhappy and they can share their misery. This is sharing instead of venting and blame.
The COSMIC Truth of CAUSE and EFFECT or RECIPROCAL ACTION says that nothing happens by chance or outside of universal truths. The fact that you cannot identify the cause or effect is IRRELEVANT. For every action there is a reaction or consequence someplace. That is also referred to as karma in the lower vibrations of UNBALANCED energy trying to rebalance itself.
The time lag between cause and effect CREATED the illusion that you could get away with greediness, sexual harassment and cruelty with impunity. When you want details about any of your unbalanced energy, just ask your soul conglomerate, out loud. Your soul can give names and dates or give you a slideshow of how events unfolded and the thought patterns of every individual involved. If you can’t hear your soul, it will present the information in a dream or some other way you can understand. Ask for a slideshow of you being the predator or perpetrator and re-live your thoughts and feelings over and over again to defuse any emotional charge left.
Your soul conglomerate compassionately listens to you!
COMPASSIONATE LISTENING, HEARING what is actually said, or DEEP LISTENING is done to help ease another’s suffering and increase compassion. It is and interactive activity that creates synergy between people, which creates light or faster spinning quanta. Increased light is a catalyst for change. Encourage the one suffering to share their feelings, thoughts and beliefs. Tell them what you observe as a way to validate them and double check your perceptions. Tell them you can see they are in pain and you want to understand their point of perception. Mostly LISTEN because this is not the time to offer advice or tell YOUR story. Your response or reaction to their experience can bring them relief or more suffering.
At a later time you can present a different point of perception or more information if and when it’s asked for.
IS Your VOCABULARY BRUTAL or PAINFUL?
Is what you say to the self and others putting people’s nervous system on red alert? Putting them in a mild state of fear, self-doubt, insecurity or even fear? Are you reinforcing their negative self-talk? Is that what you want to create around you a “a culture of casual brutality?” Is that what you want to emanate and have come back to your consciousness, your nervous system? Is that what you are attracting and entraining with? Do you want your nervous system to always be on alert, fearful of where the next verbal attack is coming from? Any fear, even low levels, puts the biology in a defensive mode of survival, which stifles creativity, higher brain function, higher states of consciousness and fun.
Is that what you want to do to yourself?
Is that what you want for those around you?
This is how our president speaks and how many mean spirited parents, leaders, coaches and teachers speak. When you have been treated harshly and victimized, you feel justified in giving what you got. INSTEAD of deciding to give better than what you got. Brutal and painful vocabulary comes from people that are fearful and unwilling to be compassionate with the self. Their nervous systems are always on red alert and survival of their container or their biology and not the soul essence. They are always defending themself from a BULLY or an indifferent one, in their past they keep dragging into present time.
It’s also the bully or an indifferent one, they have become.
This is similar to being raised in the dogma and programming of the Catholic Church or Mormon Church or Jewish faith. You may never follow any of the dogma as an adult, BUT the fears of punishment and damnation are always present in your thoughts and upsetting to your nervous system. Just like being programmed by any mean spirited adult when you were a child. Stays with you and affects your consciousness in all your incarnations. You carry your reaction to their nastiness in your consciousness throughout all your soul essence’s incarnations. That is why humanity residing in the dark bandwidth needed to be quarantined from the light bandwidth. They do not play nice. They keep giving and entraining with what they got and emanated.
They reject compassion, giving and receiving!
Brutal and painful vocabulary makes you a “spiritual criminal” a predator perpetrating on you and others. You become a suppressor of creativity and your own spontaneity and fun. Creativity, spontaneity and fun happen when you feel safe, value the self and feel free enough to experiment with new thoughts and ideas. Creativity needs a willingness to fail over and over again and still want to try again. Creativity needs a willingness to explore new and different thoughts without fear and mean spiritedness.
Of course, there is NEVER a need to own what comes out of a bully’s essence or mouth. They are only spreading their own personal fears about the self. They need to be quarantined until they can be compassionate with the self. You CANNOT do it for them. They will figure it out or the copy will run out of light and cease to exist.