is used to avoid responsibility and an excuse to stagnate, to wallow in a wound. Blaming the self is used to avoid changing your thoughts to increase your compassion for you. Blame is the excuse used to indulge in addictions, passivity, denial, deflection and / or dissociation. Victims generally ask or demand that their predator, help, guide and assist them. That most ALWAYS leads to their re-victimization, continued drama and suffering.