is not unconditional love or compassion. It is a survival skill to maintain the biology AND to avoid being responsible for what YOU think and feel.
Codependents have excessive emotional and psychological reliance on each other to shape their identity and self-concept. Generally two or many more needy people lacking HEALTHY personal boundaries and a strong self-concept will come together to define themselves as a unit, family, clan, country, royalty or planet. They force their reality on each other and any children they attract and entrain with. Codependency enables people to “handle” each other to satisfy various wants and needs in low resonances.
Enablers feel WORTHWHILE by crippling someone further, that doesn’t want to be responsible for the self. It is an agreement or contract by both sides, or all parties to avoid being responsible for the SELF. Enablers OWN blame, and fix problems that they do not have to the detriment of both parties. Irresponsible ones continue acting out or in. Humanity’s handlers have mastered keeping humans attached to ONLY ONE reality, the low beta brainwave state of fear and physicality.
First you withhold and limit basic necessities for the biology, punish, shame or kill, those that think for the self or cause too much trouble. The handler’s love their slaves begging and dependent, focused on their wounds and what they lack. Over the centuries humans have mindlessly repeated the same phrases, disinformation and lies to each other, to put them into a hypnotic or unconscious state of surrender, entrainment and not thinking or feeling.
To break codependent thought patterns, you need to operate with the belief and KNOW you are independent and able to care for and nurture the self. “Someone else” CAN’T and won’t change things for you. Traumas you experienced, and OR the fact that you were never rescued happened. Work on staying present and being the objective observer of your painful experiences.