left on an experience, is an intense electrical impulse stored as potential energy in the body as TENSION. When a painful memory gets triggered or re-stimulated you relive it exactly as you experienced it the first time.
To release that tension, STAY CONSCIOUS and aware as you relive the experience and expand your awareness of your thoughts and others thinking. Keep reliving that experience, mentally until the emotional charge releases and you become the objective observer, gathering knowledge and wisdom about what YOU attracted and entrained TO YOU, with the thought patterns you hold. Your soul can always give you the truth: JUST ask, listen to what is said and be patient, you’ll get the answers you seek.