is ALLOWING as much time and space as is needed, for another to become compassionate with themself. A space is a place for potential, where things can happen and expand. Allowing whatever comes, to happen. To hold a space you need to step aside and let others make their own choices of what they want to experience, including the consequences of their choices without your interference, judgment, shame, or blame. No trying to fix them or lecture on what to do.
Feedback is fine when sincerely asked for, and given compassionately. Holding a space is being supportive or increasing someone’s awareness WHEN THEY ASK for it or seek it out and can understand and handle the information you offer. To be supportive you need to realistically discern their state of consciousness and what skills they and you actually have. When their focus is on their WOUND, blaming, judgment or an act of vengeance or gossip, they are not ready to grow personally! They choose to remain in dark thought patterns. You would be wise to disengage and allow that.
In higher consciousness we are all sovereign beings, which means we stay conscious, think and decide for the self all of the time.