are created and maintained, by the one(s) telling the lies to avoid owning what is true. To protect themself from a judgment they have made or owned about the self. Denial and dissociation are used to hide or delay addressing what is true. The liar and those repeating the pretty stories are not addressing, their wounds, anger, stinginess or mean spiritedness.
Holding thoughts that are NOT compassionate about you, chip away at your self-worth create worry, confusion, doubt and isolation IN YOU, because you are trying to protect yourself from the truth. Longing for what “could have been” is YOU grieving the loss of YOUR illusions and pretty stories YOU made up for you — that never came true. Just like “the trickle down theory” that will never be true.